Someone Special

I have been thinking for a while about what is important in one's life.. For some it is money..some fame.. some power and for some it is love and happiness... I fall into the last category.. For me love and relationships mean the most.. I would do anything to keep people close to me happy.. My friend often tells me that I get so involved in my relationship that I forget myself and all I do work towards the relationship.. This though makes me happy but in the process I have lost myself.. Yeah I know I keep saying this to myself.. But havent really done anything about it. But that is not what I am getting at.. My question is how much importance should you give to that Special Someone in your life. If you ask me I would say he/she means the most to you. But in hindsight do you really want to give yourself to someone and in a way be at the mercy of that person? Ok.. this is something very harsh but that is the gist of it.. Your happiness/sadness/mood depends on that one person. And he/she affects and influences you so much that your very existance is dependent on him/her. Is it really worth it to give so much importance to that one person? No.. The answer is very logical..No brainer.. you should not give the importance to one person..Despite knowing this we do the same thing. I have always believed in this.. i live for love and relationship.. and have been hurt a number of times.. and i am trying to unlearn to do this..and live for myself.. but it is hard.. 32 years of believing something and then changing it can be difficult. I still cannot believe that something that I believed in so strongly would hurt me so much.. or have I always been believing the wrong thing?

Happiness

Life is a bitch.. One thing after the other it keeps throwing challenges at you. And all you can do is play the game.. Get hurt.. Fall down..feel miserable and then get up again. We all move ahead thinking that this new phase will bring something that will keep you happy forever.. But happiness is a myth.. well not really.. being happy is an Art..much like any form of art that you can think of.. because it needs to be practiced and practiced day in and day out if you want to really excel in it. I say so because I have come to realize that the only person who can make you happy is you.. No matter how close people may be to you.. how soothing their touch maybe unless you can make yourself happy no body can.. Its something what I realize but how do I practice it.. That is a question that is lingering in my mind. Circumstances make you go crazy and let bizzare thoughts into your mind.. How do you calm your mind so that you are not always anxious and insecure.. How do you train your mind to make it understand that there are certain things in life that you cannot control. The only person you can control is yourself and that you need to do that in order to keep yourself.. But the bigger question for me is..Why do we make our happiness so dependent on others even after knowing all this?

Uncertainties

Uncertainties are a way of life.. It is true that life is uncertain and that you never know what is going to happen next..Yet we plan and pray that everything falls according to the plan.. My life has been filled with uncertainties (agree everybody's is)..but sometimes i wonder and get bogged down by the things that we wished would happen but it is just taking so long for it to happen. And new surprises keep popping up now and then. How do you deal with such emotions? How can you shift gears easily and at the same time be supportive of your loved ones when the turmoil is inside you. Hoping for quick relief..