Someone Special

I have been thinking for a while about what is important in one's life.. For some it is money..some fame.. some power and for some it is love and happiness... I fall into the last category.. For me love and relationships mean the most.. I would do anything to keep people close to me happy.. My friend often tells me that I get so involved in my relationship that I forget myself and all I do work towards the relationship.. This though makes me happy but in the process I have lost myself.. Yeah I know I keep saying this to myself.. But havent really done anything about it. But that is not what I am getting at.. My question is how much importance should you give to that Special Someone in your life. If you ask me I would say he/she means the most to you. But in hindsight do you really want to give yourself to someone and in a way be at the mercy of that person? Ok.. this is something very harsh but that is the gist of it.. Your happiness/sadness/mood depends on that one person. And he/she affects and influences you so much that your very existance is dependent on him/her. Is it really worth it to give so much importance to that one person? No.. The answer is very logical..No brainer.. you should not give the importance to one person..Despite knowing this we do the same thing. I have always believed in this.. i live for love and relationship.. and have been hurt a number of times.. and i am trying to unlearn to do this..and live for myself.. but it is hard.. 32 years of believing something and then changing it can be difficult. I still cannot believe that something that I believed in so strongly would hurt me so much.. or have I always been believing the wrong thing?