I have been thinking about relationships for sometime..
Sometimes I wonder what is the most important ingredient that goes on to make a relationship strong.. Is it love..trust..mutual respect..care.. the need to keep a relationship going.. selflessness..friendship..commitment.. What is it that makes a relationship strong and everlasting?
Sometimes i feel all of the above are necessary but if i needed to pick one which one would it be?
Can a relationship be truly selfless.. totally giving and not have any expectations in return?
Can you trust a relationship so much that u give a damn to the rest of the world?
What would happen if that relationship would then betray you? What would you do in such a situation.. heartbroken do you go looking for another relationship that would fill that void in you.. or live with the pain for the rest of your life and not trust any further relationships that you may get into?
Why does one strive for a relationship going knowing it has a lot many faults.. knowing that sometimes you lose your identity in them..
Sometimes you are a mother.. a daughter.. a friend.. a girlfriend.. a wife..
How many such identities can we balance.. Giving importance to one you are blamed of ignoring the others.. How long can one go balancing these relationships and losing out on the relationship you have with your soul?There is always a conflict which never ends..
So many questions.. So many if's and but's but the answer's vary..
Which is the best option to pick.
Life always makes you chose things.. and you choose whats best for you at that point in time .. But then again you are not sure if that choice was the right one..Things can go wrong anytime anywhere..
Life is such a complicated thing.. in such situations how do you keep yourself happy?
makes others around you happy?
we can't make everyone happy but still we strive to do that knowing its a next to impossible task.. So now if you know its so then why do it? is that right?But if you stop then whatever chances you have to make people happy goes away.. Its a cycle and how does one ever get out of it!!! Beats me.. anyone with asnwers????
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OK..i'm trying to say something on that... y am i trying..cos..i'm not sure too... like..all of us..we not sure about life..how can we expect ourselves to be sure bout the entities in it.
Well, how do u know..that u have to call ur mother "mother" or girl friend..a "girl friend". and since when did these relationships and the norms started developing... as n when they discovered it..rite?? i'm guessing.
having conveyed something above..i wanna ask some questions...
how many different relationships exists in this world?
WHO is a Girl/boy friend? and how do u define em?
or..can u answer that? try it
'Love'...another confusion..y is it a confusion...cos we trying to define it.. its a feeling man...
we should just know that these are feelings.. .love..relationship.. we can yea..discover some chemical reactions in the body..when u feel such things...but u cant say that these chemical changes is wat defines it.rite...
alos..in these feelings ...intensities change..feelings also change... u can be a fnd with the same person..and then u feel more..u miss the person..u then...call it love...then...u call it.."he's bored"...and then u call it..."he jus takes me for granted"... and so on..and then... u call it.."we done". y dont u always..call it..this is a NEW change..how can make this work together..oh u slipped...ok..fine..now wat..how can we make this work...... oh u have loads of work / business to do..fine..lets do this now..to stay together... as long as that is done.. things will be healthy...Fck..i'm writing some shit... see..this is wat happens when u start talking about things u dont know...
The anwer is Move on !
Renith... Move on is fine.. all of us do move on in life.. but what about all the emotions you've invested in the relationships.. Does all that go in vain???
Mike.. I understand that relationships arise from feelings and these feelings cannot be defined.. but my questions is that once the relationship is developed and nurtured how much of yourself do you give it??
How far would you go and then say maybe this is it.. i cannot go further..
I appreciate that people in a relationship try and make things work out.. But what would u do if you cannot give what the relationship wants.. no matter h0ow hard you try.. and you cannot give in cos u need to to give something to your self..
what should one do in such a case? be selfless n give in or satisfy yourself??
Nope, no answers. And that's the beauty of it. You won't find answers from anywhere else but you.
They say that relationships are a part of you - they exist cos you do - and not vice versa. So what you want in a relationship is well, what you know best! Because frankly, it's not like where you have a list of "items" and you form a relationship with someone who has the max number of those criteria met. It's something that simple. So answers? Uh-uh!
As for giving in to a relationship, how much and what all - again, personal. It's like would you do thing 'x' if your mom asked, and would you do it if your schoolteacher asked. Two different people, same request asked. Maybe you'll do it - but how well you do it will depend on the person who's asking for it. And what you 'feel' towards that person. And they are relationships too. Why should girlfriend/boyfriend be any different? Agreed, they're our better halves and "special" in a very cliched way, but well, they're relationships nonetheless.
There is no best option, if you ask me. It's not a math formula where you have the variables very clearly defined, and placing values to them will give you the solution. No. And viewing a relationship that way is not the way too.
I think the trick is to enjoy each relationship as it comes, a day at a time. Take the bouquets and the brick-bats, a day at a time. Life is but a collection of years you live, and a year is nothing but 365 days!!! :)
Bah!! I'm actually posting in some blogs.....never believed feeling come from keyboard but this post of yours tempted me to the core...The amazing thing I found while going through your writeup is that the problem is not of maintaining relationship but its of asking questions...when in relationship we always tend to see from our perspective..that makes us feel that we've gone to the limit to maintain a relation and nothing more can be done...then come the questions...which as said have no answers....these questions are the real cause that gets you to the end of a relationship.....
And I guess nothing is a confusion when you don't ask questions..espeially to yourself....
Too many thoughts inter-twined. The undercurrent being the dominant yet understated. The concept of the Self.
Self originates when we nurture.
Self answers all the questions.
Nurture your SELF to find the key to life.
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