Relationships

I have been thinking about relationships for sometime..
Sometimes I wonder what is the most important ingredient that goes on to make a relationship strong.. Is it love..trust..mutual respect..care.. the need to keep a relationship going.. selflessness..friendship..commitment.. What is it that makes a relationship strong and everlasting?
Sometimes i feel all of the above are necessary but if i needed to pick one which one would it be?
Can a relationship be truly selfless.. totally giving and not have any expectations in return?
Can you trust a relationship so much that u give a damn to the rest of the world?
What would happen if that relationship would then betray you? What would you do in such a situation.. heartbroken do you go looking for another relationship that would fill that void in you.. or live with the pain for the rest of your life and not trust any further relationships that you may get into?
Why does one strive for a relationship going knowing it has a lot many faults.. knowing that sometimes you lose your identity in them..
Sometimes you are a mother.. a daughter.. a friend.. a girlfriend.. a wife..
How many such identities can we balance.. Giving importance to one you are blamed of ignoring the others.. How long can one go balancing these relationships and losing out on the relationship you have with your soul?There is always a conflict which never ends..
So many questions.. So many if's and but's but the answer's vary..
Which is the best option to pick.
Life always makes you chose things.. and you choose whats best for you at that point in time .. But then again you are not sure if that choice was the right one..Things can go wrong anytime anywhere..
Life is such a complicated thing.. in such situations how do you keep yourself happy?
makes others around you happy?
we can't make everyone happy but still we strive to do that knowing its a next to impossible task.. So now if you know its so then why do it? is that right?But if you stop then whatever chances you have to make people happy goes away.. Its a cycle and how does one ever get out of it!!! Beats me.. anyone with asnwers????

Punctuate

Been long since my last post..
Well have been busy with doing nothing as usual..
The usual household chores..(gosh do i sound like a housewife!!!!) and same ole office work.. Life does seem to be pretty exciting in the office.. atleast I'm using my little brain after like ages of just mindless coding..
Does feel good i must say. :)
Last week I went for this dance theatre called Punctuate by a group Tarantismo..
The theme for the performance is described as 'If a woman’s life was a book you wouldn’t need to ponder through the paragraphs, stare at the sentences or worry about the words. To understand her, all you need to do to – is pay attention to the punctuation!!!'.

Actually got me thinking.. A girl's life is like a set of so many punctuations..

Commas - for loads of things to do.. managing a house, cooking, cleaning, taking care of family, kids, career, strike a balance, etc, etc. Do you get what i mean!!

Question Marks - Does he love me? Do you think this outfit looks good on me? Red or yellow? Sandals or Ballerinas?

Guys can we discuss the various punctuation marks and their relevance we can think of.. what say people???

New Home

I have been planning to move from my current room to a flat of my own for a long long... really long time.. Had it not been for the apprehensions of my mother i would have done the needful long time back.. Long back when ruchi (my bestest friend) first came to bangalore for her job.. that was in 2006 (if my memory doesn’t evade me). I like a good daughter protested against her will to move out.. saying its not safe and blah blah blah, giving a thousand and one excuses not to shift out.. basically i didn't want mom to be worried.

But then there were times when i actually wanted to come back to my home at the end of the day and not back to my room... Rather i should say our room (cos after Ruchi left for the States, Nidhi(my sis) and Prerna( nidhi's fren and my extended sis))came for their jobs and stayed with me.. So here we were 3 girls in a room.. But hey.. I forgot something at one point in time we were 5 in that room.. (Ruchi, Me, Swati (my other sis who was here for her CAT prep), Nidhi and Prerna.. whooo..quite a number). Can you imagine 5 girls in a room.. and the havoc we would create at times.. Did I not mention that we had only a single attached bathroom and with 4 people working you can well imagine the queue outside the bathroom in the mornings.

So finally the opportunity came when Swati was posted in Bangalore (Yes in the mean time she has finished her 2 year MBA course). We decided that we need to get a flat.The 3 of us are somehow managing in one room we cannot get another one in there..Hence started our new expedition - Mission Househunting...
House hunting we began.. the first target was to get hold of the Ad mag and place an ad in Sulekha.. After getting few numbers we started calling them.. fixed a few appointment.. saw a few houses which we didn’t like.. eventually we decided to take one block at a time and search for all possible vacant houses in the area.. thus began the journey of looking at houses without light glowing.. knocking prospective doors and asking with the sweetest smile on our faces if any place was vacant..

Finally we stumbled upon a ToLet board and saw the current place.. all of us loved it too much to let go.. Immediately fixed an appointment with the house owner.. Bargained to the best of our abilities and hey..the house belonged to us.. How excited we were.. We started making one list after the other.. Kitchen.. rooms..bathroom.. Everything to be setup from the scratch.. And the most dreaded event was packing our stuff..Oh how i hate packing..but packing everything that i have accumulated over the ast 4 years was a herculean job.. considering the fact i tend to keep even the most unwanted things cos i’m emotionally attached to all my belongings.. but then i decided enough is enough and i have to get rid of the unwanted stuff.. By the time the three of us packed our bags our room resembled a railway platform (Prerna’s words) with piles of bags and cartons stacked..thanks to my sweetheart we were saved with the kitchen shopping..  We were all setting up the house scrubbing and cleaning.. stacking things.. setting up the kitchen..


The house is almost setup now.. It feels to come back to your own place.. your own house.. Its a different feeling.. sometimes i do miss my old room.. chatting up with aunty when you are feeling lonely.. gossip.. But now we are proud owners of our own place... Love every corner of this house.. love the independence.. sometimes love cleaning and cooking too.. Am nursing my culinary skills which was dormant for so long and looking forward to loads of fun..

Some random thoughts

I have been thinking for quite sometime to write something in my blog..The topics i thought of ranged from about myself to some articles that i read (e.g. quarter life crisis :) ) to some inspirational quotes.. but then i haven't still been able to figure out what to write. Sometimes i have so much to write but when it comes down to actually writing things i fall short of words.
Life for me has been a roller coaster ride.. well literally.. but when i start to think about it I really don't know if it did bad or good for me(i would like to think its done good). But there is this constant dis satisfaction in me..a hollow.. an urge to do something( if only i knew what??)..I wonder if a lot of people feel the same way.
Sometimes or rather most times i feel life has stagnated.. need something to rejuvenate yourself.. live life and not just exist which sometimes i feel i am doing.. add some value to people around you or maybe first add some value to your own life..
Am I the only one who feels like this cos when i see people around everyone looks very happy and satisfied. Is this the case or is it just me who thinks this way????

My first Blog

Phewwww.. Finally looks like I am going to post the very first post in my blogging career ( which i don't know how long will it last, hoping that this is going to be a good start for me :) ). I have always been fascinated by people who write. Its like a gift when all your thoughts flow out so beautifully that the person reading it can actually visualize your thoughts in his own way.It is something which is really so amazing and unique. How different minds can process the same material in different ways.
Like I said I would always read people's blogs and I would say to myself you should start blogging too. But being the lazy creature that I am I kept procrastinating. The reason I am here blogging today is that I am bored to death in the office. Have surfed everything I usually surf thoughout the day and am thinking of ways to pass my time. So I thought why not write your first blog??
So here I am.. a novice in the bloggers space..promising myself to keep posting more blogs...